Controlling people are immature people. They are usually overly critical and assuming, also casting false allegation. Many times they are emotionally damaged.

Don’t tell a narcissist anything personal, they’ll use it against you and think they are entitled to do so. They will not honor your boundaries and they are good at exploiting your weaknesses even though they can’t get their own life in order. Because they have such a low self esteem it makes them feel powerful when they can put you down and…[Read more]

When you try to control other people or dictate to them what their behavior should be you’re interfering with the work of the Holy Spirit. Controlling is not loving and you are stepping in the way of the Ruach. Do you want other people to control you and dictate to your behavior? Don’t do it to them either because this is not the Fruit of the…[Read more]

Don’t be the kind of man that needs a woman, be the kind of man a woman wants.

Likewise:
Don’t be the kind of woman that needs a man, be the kind of woman a man wants.

I grew up in a hostile environment with a narcissistic dad who destroyed his family, went through several marriages and blamed it on all those women, never his inability to choose a good woman. He drove his children away and barely any of them talk to him at all any more. I stay in touch at a distance, a very far expanse. When my children were…[Read more]

Don’t tell me what they said about me, tell me why they felt so comfortable saying it around you.

When you hurl dung at me it only helps me improve and as I take it well the Father blesses me, I will not do it in return because you are not worthy of the blessing.